Join the Self-Compassion Community

We created the Self-Compassion Community as a place where people could come together to learn and strengthen the life-changing skill of self-compassion. Thousands of research studies show that self-compassion improves mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. By joining our community, you will be firmly on the path to developing a healthier, more authentic way of relating to yourself and others. As a community member, you will be able to:

Learn more about the Self-Compassion Community below!

Gatherings with Kristin

Once a month, Kristin will hold a 75 minute online gathering.  She will lead a 15 minute self-compassion practice, then open it up for questions from participants.  Have your questions answered on any topic! You can also access a library of fascinating questions and answers from past gatherings in the Learning Corner.

Upcoming Gatherings

Sample Q & A

Guest Conversations

In these 60 minute events, Dr. Neff will be joined by a colleague whose work touches on self-compassion.  These free-flowing conversations will focus on guests’ views of the importance of self-compassion in the work they do.  In addition to conversations with well-known luminaries, we’ll also focus on special topics such as self-compassion for teens, clinical applications, parenting, and so on. Time will be reserved at the end of each conversation for questions from participants.

Guests who have agreed to appear include....

Up Next:

May
04
Saturday,
11:00 am-12:00 pm
Caverly Morgan is a spiritual teacher, author, and speaker. She is the founder of Peace in Schools, a nonprofit that created the nation’s first for-credit mindfulness class in...

Mentor Sessions

These one hour group zoom sessions (held multiple times each week) will be led by an experienced self-compassion mentor.  It’s a precious opportunity to deepen your practice and connect with fellow community members. There will be affinity group mentor sessions for members who share an identity to discuss self-compassion practice. (We will start with a BIPOC group and LBGTQ+ group, led by a mentor who shares this identity.) A book club will be led by a mentor in which members will read and discuss selected books on self-compassion together. While these mentor sessions may be therapeutic, they are not therapy sessions but instead focus on building skills and resources.

"What do I need?" Practice Toolkit

Self-compassion involves giving ourselves what we need in the moment to alleviate suffering. Sometimes we need acceptance, sometimes we need to take action.  This toolkit will provide a variety of empirically-supported self-compassion practices to help you meet your needs with strength and warmth.  

These newly recorded guided practices are targeted toward different types of struggle such as feeling inadequate, caregiver distress, coping with difficult emotions, the need to stand up for yourself, the need to relax, and more. Practices are of different lengths, including mini practices (3 minutes or less) that can be used on the spot in daily life! New practices will be added continually.

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Mini Tender Self-Compassion Break (2:05)

Learning Corner

In the learning corner, you can view short videos of Dr. Neff teaching about various self-compassion topics: basic concepts,  fierce self-compassion, the science of self-compassion, compassionate motivation, working with difficult emotions, self-compassion for caregivers, core values, and much more. 

In the learning corner you can also watch selected Q&A dialogues in which Dr. Neff answers people’s questions about all aspects of self-compassion research and practice (see sample dialogue in the Gatherings with Kristin tab).

Sample Lesson: The Three Elements of Self Compassion

Sharing Corner

The Sharing Corner is a place where members can introduce themselves to other members.  Mentors will also be asking members to share their experiences in response to guiding questions in three domains of life: personal practice, family and relationships, and professional and public contexts.   This type of sharing is key to embracing our common humanity, as we gain insight  into common triumphs, roadblocks, insights and struggles  in self-compassion practice.  Sharings will be screened to ensure that they are safe for everyone and adhere to community guidelines..

Sample Guiding Question Topics

Practice Blogs

Dr. Neff has created dozens of blog posts to explore different aspects of self-compassion practice, such as how to create balance in our relationships, cope with generational pain, draw boundaries, motivate change, live a fulfilling life, and much more.  

Most blog posts include a brief article written by Dr. Neff,  a short video, and a guided practice.  

Sample Practice Blog:

A person in the center of an open highway walking.

Self-Compassionate Motivation

One of the biggest blocks to practicing self-compassion is the belief that it will undermine our motivation. People think that if they’re kind to themselves, they’ll become lazy, irresponsible, and complacent. The opposite is true.Tender self-compassion allows us to accept ourselves unconditionally, while fierce self-compassion spurs us to take action to change behaviors or situations that cause suffering. This means that instead of taking it personally when we fail, we remember that failure is human, and we try to learn from our mistakes.

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Gatherings with Kristin

Gatherings with Kristin

Once a month, Kristin will hold a 75 minute online gathering.  She will lead a 15 minute self-compassion practice, then open it up for questions from participants.  Have your questions answered on any topic! You can also access a library of fascinating questions and answers from past gatherings in the Learning Corner.

Upcoming Gatherings

Sample Q & A

Guest Conversations

Guest Conversations

In these 60 minute events, Dr. Neff will be joined by a colleague whose work touches on self-compassion.  These free-flowing conversations will focus on guests’ views of the importance of self-compassion in the work they do.  In addition to conversations with well-known luminaries, we’ll also focus on special topics such as self-compassion for teens, clinical applications, parenting, and so on. Time will be reserved at the end of each conversation for questions from participants.

Guests who have agreed to appear include....

Up Next:

May
04
Saturday,
11:00 am-12:00 pm
Caverly Morgan is a spiritual teacher, author, and speaker. She is the founder of Peace in Schools, a nonprofit that created the nation’s first for-credit mindfulness class in...
Mentor Sessions

Mentor Sessions

These one hour group zoom sessions (held multiple times each week) will be led by an experienced self-compassion mentor.  It’s a precious opportunity to deepen your practice and connect with fellow community members. There will be affinity group mentor sessions for members who share an identity to discuss self-compassion practice. (We will start with a BIPOC group and LBGTQ+ group, led by a mentor who shares this identity.) A book club will be led by a mentor in which members will read and discuss selected books on self-compassion together. While these mentor sessions may be therapeutic, they are not therapy sessions but instead focus on building skills and resources.

Practice Toolkit

"What do I need?" Practice Toolkit

Self-compassion involves giving ourselves what we need in the moment to alleviate suffering. Sometimes we need acceptance, sometimes we need to take action.  This toolkit will provide a variety of empirically-supported self-compassion practices to help you meet your needs with strength and warmth.  

These newly recorded guided practices are targeted toward different types of struggle such as feeling inadequate, caregiver distress, coping with difficult emotions, the need to stand up for yourself, the need to relax, and more. Practices are of different lengths, including mini practices (3 minutes or less) that can be used on the spot in daily life! New practices will be added continually.

Save and access your favorites anytime!

0:00 / 0:00
Mini Tender Self-Compassion Break (2:05)
Learning Corner

Learning Corner

In the learning corner, you can view short videos of Dr. Neff teaching about various self-compassion topics: basic concepts,  fierce self-compassion, the science of self-compassion, compassionate motivation, working with difficult emotions, self-compassion for caregivers, core values, and much more. 

In the learning corner you can also watch selected Q&A dialogues in which Dr. Neff answers people’s questions about all aspects of self-compassion research and practice (see sample dialogue in the Gatherings with Kristin tab).

Sample Lesson: The Three Elements of Self Compassion

Sharing Corner

Sharing Corner

The Sharing Corner is a place where members can introduce themselves to other members.  Mentors will also be asking members to share their experiences in response to guiding questions in three domains of life: personal practice, family and relationships, and professional and public contexts.   This type of sharing is key to embracing our common humanity, as we gain insight  into common triumphs, roadblocks, insights and struggles  in self-compassion practice.  Sharings will be screened to ensure that they are safe for everyone and adhere to community guidelines..

Sample Guiding Question Topics

Practice Blogs

Practice Blogs

Dr. Neff has created dozens of blog posts to explore different aspects of self-compassion practice, such as how to create balance in our relationships, cope with generational pain, draw boundaries, motivate change, live a fulfilling life, and much more.  

Most blog posts include a brief article written by Dr. Neff,  a short video, and a guided practice.  

Sample Practice Blog:

A person in the center of an open highway walking.

Self-Compassionate Motivation

One of the biggest blocks to practicing self-compassion is the belief that it will undermine our motivation. People think that if they’re kind to themselves, they’ll become lazy, irresponsible, and complacent. The opposite is true.Tender self-compassion allows us to accept ourselves unconditionally, while fierce self-compassion spurs us to take action to change behaviors or situations that cause suffering. This means that instead of taking it personally when we fail, we remember that failure is human, and we try to learn from our mistakes.

Read More
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