With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and support we’d give to a good friend

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The best way to practice self-compassion is with others, so we can recognize our common humanity. Make a commitment to self-compassion by joining the Self-Compassion Community, dedicated to helping people develop more inner warmth and support. As a community member, you will have access to:

About Self Compassion

Self-compassion is simply the process of turning compassion inward.  We’re kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical when we fail, make mistakes, or feel inadequate.  We give ourselves support and encouragement rather than being cold or judgmental when challenges and difficulties arise in our lives. Research indicates that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience we have available, radically improving our mental and physical wellbeing. It motivates us to make changes and reach our goals not because we’re inadequate, but because we care and want to be happy.

This website offers information about self-compassion, as well as research, guided practices, and a way to test your own self-compassion level. You can also join our Self-Compassion Community if you’re ready to develop this life-changing skill.  It’s the right place to start your journey of learning to be more self-compassionate. 

Kristin Neff

Kristin Neff, Ph.D. is a pioneer in the study of self-compassion, being the first one to operationally define and measure the construct more than twenty years ago. She has been recognized as one of the world’s most influential research psychologists. Together with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has created several empirically supported self-compassion training programs and co-founded the Center for Mindful Self-compassion. Dr. Neff has written several best-selling books about self-compassion, and is often featured in podcasts and other media advocating for the power of self-compassion to change lives.

Recent Blog Posts by Dr. Neff

The Power of Self-Compassionate Touch

One of the quickest, most effective, and powerful ways to give ourselves compassion when we’re struggling is through physical touch. Just as we might instinctually reach out to a friend and give them a hug or hold their hand when they’re upset, we can comfort ourselves in a similar way.

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Finding Our Voice

Some people think that self-compassion means just accepting the pain of our situation without trying to change things. When we care about ourselves, we will advocate for change, and our voice becomes more powerful and authentic.

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Self-Compassion and Neurodiversity

When Rowan was first diagnosed, I didn’t recognize the hidden gifts of his autism. I was scared and worried and often felt overwhelmed by the challenges – language delay, intense tantrums, and learning difficulties. My ability to allow compassion to flow inward to myself as a parent as well as to Rowan meant that I had more strength to handle the tough stuff and to love and accept Rowan exactly as he was.

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Books

Self-Compassion

This classic book is the place to start to learn how to treat yourself as you would a friend, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and live a more fulfilled life.

Fierce Self-Compassion

Fierce Self-Compassion involves taking action to protect, motivate and provide for ourselves. This book reveals how to use self-compassion to transform ourselves and the world.

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

This workbook takes readers through the essentials of the Mindful Self-Compassion program. It will help you develop the life-changing skill of self-compassion.

Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program

This is the authoritative guide to conducting the Mindful Self-Compassion program, which provides powerful tools for coping with life challenges and enhancing emotional well-being.

TEDx Talk: The difference between self-compassion and self-esteem

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