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Self-compassion is simply the process of turning compassion inward.  We’re kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical when we fail, make mistakes, or feel inadequate.  We give ourselves support and encouragement rather than being cold or judgmental when challenges and difficulties arise in our lives. Research indicates that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience we have available, radically improving our mental and physical wellbeing. It motivates us to make changes and reach our goals not because we’re inadequate, but because we care and want to be happy.
Kristin Neff, Ph.D. is a pioneer in the study of self-compassion, being the first one to operationally define and measure the construct more than twenty years ago. She has been recognized as one of the world’s most influential research psychologists. Together with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has created several empirically supported self-compassion training programs and co-founded the Center for Mindful Self-compassion. Dr. Neff has written several best-selling books about self-compassion, and is often featured in podcasts and other media advocating for the power of self-compassion to change lives.
Beginning the new year is an opportunity to reflect with self-compassion. Instead of harsh resolutions, embrace small supportive shifts—like resting when tired, setting boundaries, or practicing the Compassionate Friend meditation. Growth doesn’t come from criticism but from kindness, curiosity, and encouragement.
Self‑compassion often feels harder than compassion for others because our bodies default to threat mode under stress. By practicing soothing touch and signaling safety to the nervous system, we can shift from self‑criticism to care, building resilience and calm through small daily acts.
Many of us believe that self-criticism is the key to success—but research shows the opposite. Harsh inner dialogue often leads to fear, burnout, and giving up. In contrast, self-compassion fuels resilience, motivation, and even performance. Drawing from sports psychology and real-world studies, this piece explores how kindness, shared humanity, and mindful focus can transform the way we pursue our goals.
This classic book is the place to start to learn how to treat yourself as you would a friend, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and live a more fulfilled life.
Fierce Self-Compassion involves taking action to protect, motivate and provide for ourselves. This book reveals how to use self-compassion to transform ourselves and the world.
This workbook takes readers through the essentials of the Mindful Self-Compassion program. It will help you develop the life-changing skill of self-compassion.
This practical and engaging book offers tools to help you learn quick and powerful ways to recharge your batteries, de-stress, and, above all, be kind to yourself--so you can be there for others.
