With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and support we’d give to a good friend

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About Self Compassion

Self-compassion is simply the process of turning compassion inward.  We’re kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical when we fail, make mistakes, or feel inadequate.  We give ourselves support and encouragement rather than being cold or judgmental when challenges and difficulties arise in our lives. Research indicates that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience we have available, radically improving our mental and physical wellbeing. It motivates us to make changes and reach our goals not because we’re inadequate, but because we care and want to be happy.

This website offers information about self-compassion, as well as research, guided practices, and a way to test your own self-compassion level. You can also join our Self-Compassion Community if you’re ready to develop this life-changing skill.  It’s the right place to start your journey of learning to be more self-compassionate. 

Kristin Neff

Kristin Neff, Ph.D. is a pioneer in the study of self-compassion, being the first one to operationally define and measure the construct more than twenty years ago. She has been recognized as one of the world’s most influential research psychologists. Together with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has created several empirically supported self-compassion training programs and co-founded the Center for Mindful Self-compassion. Dr. Neff has written several best-selling books about self-compassion, and is often featured in podcasts and other media advocating for the power of self-compassion to change lives.

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Books

Fierce Self-Compassion

Fierce Self-Compassion involves taking action to protect, motivate and provide for ourselves. This book reveals how to use self-compassion to transform ourselves and the world.

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

This workbook takes readers through the essentials of the Mindful Self-Compassion program. It will help you develop the life-changing skill of self-compassion.

Self-Compassion

This classic book is the place to start to learn how to treat yourself as you would a friend, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and live a more fulfilled life.

Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program

This is the authoritative guide to conducting the Mindful Self-Compassion program, which provides powerful tools for coping with life challenges and enhancing emotional well-being.

TEDx Talk: The difference between self-compassion and self-esteem

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Self-Compassion and Neurodiversity
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Self-Compassion and Neurodiversity

When Rowan was first diagnosed, I didn’t recognize the hidden gifts of his autism. I was scared and worried and often felt overwhelmed by the challenges – language delay, intense tantrums, and learning difficulties. My ability to allow compassion to flow inward to myself as a parent as well as to Rowan meant that I had more strength to handle the tough stuff and to love and accept Rowan exactly as he was.

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Colorful Gifts
Miscellaneous

Cultivating goodwill

Given that our internal emotional landscape colors our experience 24/7, one could argue that it’s most important to direct goodwill inward. When we are kind and supportive with ourselves, we create a benevolent mindset that provides the resources to give to others.

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Practice Issues

Who is the Self in Self-Compassion?

Some people feel they can’t give themselves compassion, that they’re too hurt, or they’re unworthy. But if we reframe self-compassion as tapping into something that’s much greater than our small self, allowing our inner thoughts, feelings and perceptions to be held by the loving awareness of Self, then who is it that “can’t” do it?

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Self & Others

Equanimity in Self-Compassion Practice

Our ability to use self-compassion to be with pain is one key to working with our feelings of intense grief and shock. Another helpful aspect of self-compassion is equanimity. Equanimity refers to the balance and calm that arises when we acknowledge human imperfection with an open heart.

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Tender Acceptance

Working with Emotional Pain

One of the most powerful aspects of self-compassion is the strength it provides to experience emotional pain without being overwhelmed. Difficult feelings like shame, anger, fear, sadness, or confusion can spiral into debilitating mind states like depression or anxiety if we aren’t able to hold them with compassion.

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Fierce Self-Compassion

Living a Fulfilling Life

Most of us work hard at home or at our profession, but how many of us stop to ask ourselves what makes us truly happy? One of the most consistent findings of the research literature is that self-compassion leads to greater life satisfaction and contentment. It does so in part by encouraging us to ask ourselves what brings us joy in life.

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