Make a commitment to yourself

If you’re reading this right now you’ve probably identified the benefits of self-compassion for your mental and physical health.  But have you explicitly committed to self-compassion as an ongoing practice?

There are cultural and physiological reasons why we tend to judge rather than support ourselves when we fail or make mistakes. But when we make a commitment to self-compassion, it helps us to be learn from our mistakes and try again. We feel safer and more secure knowing that we have made a commitment to there for ourselves to the best of our ability. 

You may be wondering how to go about making a commitment to self-compassion?  One way is to state your intentions either silently, out loud or in writing.  You can say something along the lines of: “I promise I won’t abandon you;” “I resolve to help you every step of the way;” “I vow to accept your human imperfection with an open heart.”  You can do so in a ceremonial way if you like, perhaps by lighting a candle.

It’s also very helpful to join a group of people who value self-compassion.  One of the primary reasons I created the Self-Compassion Community is to help people make a conscious commitment to learning and growing this supportive mindset. Interacting with others who value self-compassion reinforces its place in your life.  Even if you can’t make it to our live events, we offer multiple ways to practice and becoming a community member solidifies your commitment in a tangible way.  

As this new year unfolds, I hope that you make a commitment to self-compassion in whatever way feels right for you. By supporting yourself, you will have more emotional resources available to honor all the other commitments in your life.

I wish you all a productive and peaceful New Year.

Warmly,

Kristin