One reason we don’t speak up when we disagree with something, see an injustice, or don’t like how we’re being treated is that we’re afraid of making waves, displeasing others, or doubting our self-worth. The three components of fierce self-compassion help us find our voice.
Kindness in its fierce form is a quality of heart that provides the courage to stand up for ourselves.  Feelings of shared humanity empower us as we recognize our connection to others.  Mindfulness allows us to clearly acknowledge what needs to be done rather than turning away from the truth.  This brave, empowered clarity enables us to speak up when required.
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The sense of unconditional self-worth and acceptance provided by tender self-compassion also plays a role.  It helps us recognize that we are worthy of advocating for our own needs.  And when our sense of worthiness isn’t dependent on the approval of others, it’s easier to take risks, draw a boundary, or say no.
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There are so many areas of our lives where it is essential to find our voice and speak up, whether it’s at work, in our relationships, with our families, or in the political realm. And our message will be conveyed so much more effectively when it’s authentic and coming from a place of compassion. I’m including a practice called the Protective Self-Compassion Break that will help you tap into brave, empowered clarity when you’re in a situation where you want to find your voice and speak up. I hope you find it useful in your life.
